Raising Happy and Confident Children

Hello, everyone! We all understand what an important responsibility parenting is. Today we will be discussing how to raise children who are happy, healthy, and self confident--every parent's dream.

Raising happy and self confident kids is a much more difficult job than it seems, but it is possible. I have learned through my own experience with my kids and coaching other moms that there are certain ways that we interact with our children to ensure their success in life.

First thing to do is ensure that they have rules. Children want and need rules. They need structure within which they can grow. As a parent, you want to establish communication, discipline, and obedience without coming across as a third world dictator. Whether you realize it or not, your kids want you to make their rules for them. They expect you to care, nurture, and teach them. Subconsciously kids want you to provide some guidelines so that they have some structure in their lives so there is consistency and they know what to expect. Some parents make the mistake of trying to be friends with their children or not establishing firm guidelines because they fear that their children will resent them for it. This is simply not true, and it's crucial to give them the stability and structure that they both need and want.

Second thing that parents that raise happy and self confident children do is empower them to make their own decisions. When they know what the rewards and punishments are for any given situation, your kids will build self confidence by making their own decisions, and eventually they'll make the decisions that are best for them. They will be empowered to make decisions and take responsibility for their actions. They need your guidance and direction, your care and love, and you need them to listen to you and follow the rules so that you'll both be happy.

Third thing is to talk to them in a certain manner. The way you talk to your children is the greatest single factor in shaping their personality. The foundation of self confidence is self esteem. Self esteem is defined as how much you like yourself or respect yourself. When children are growing up, they have no self concept. They have no idea of themselves, who they are, and so on. They take on their beliefs from infancy by the way they are treated by the most important people in their lives. If you want to have a great impact on your children, constantly feed them positive reinforcement. Constructive and negative criticism is the greatest destroyer of personality in the world. Never, ever criticize your children! Never complain about your children, either to them or other people. Always tell them how wonderful they are and always build them up. I always say that as parents, it’s easier for us to build little people than broken adults down the line.

Always be understanding if they have problems in life. Remember we all did far worse things than they did while we were growing up. Lay down a good psychological foundation early on of self esteem and self worth that will lead to the self confidence they will need when they grow up.

Now I understand that raising well rounded children can be tough especially in today's hectic world. The good news is that if you are a dedicated parent and provide them with the tools they need to succeed (especially the emotional tools), you will not only ensure that they'll be healthy but also that they will be equipped and more resilient in the future.

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