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First, I wanted to give you some background history about the way we think. Our brain is 1,000 years old and it operates on survival instincts. Its main job is to keep us safe and comfortable. Every time we take on a new endeavor or go in a new direction, the brain will keep telling us that that way is scary and that we shouldn’t even try. This is called the “inner critical voice” that keeps showing up to instill doubt and fear in us. The problem is not that the brain does this (because that’s it’s job), but that we never challenge them because we were never taught how to think properly. This is not our fault--we were never taught this in school, much less in our homes considering our parents ran on automatic programming that’s 1,000 years old as well. It wasn’t their fault either. The information that we have today was not available for them back then. Today, with the advancement of technology and science, we have the awareness that it is very important to investigate our thoughts, to pick and choose the thoughts that give us positive feelings and life experiences over the negative ones.
In a thought model developed by Life Coach Brooke Castillo, she explains the correlation between how circumstances that we usually can’t control trigger thoughts, which cause our feelings, which drive our actions, which ultimately give us our results. For example, when I first started my business, that was the circumstance. My main thought for a while was, “This is so hard.” As a result, I was feeling discouraged and was taking little action since I felt like there was no point. Of course, as a result of this, my business went nowhere.
It was only after I made myself aware of my negative thoughts by jotting them down on paper that I made a decision to believe the new empowering thought in which I believed in. I started to take one logical step at a time and started believing in myself that I felt empowered to take the next actions. The result was that it actually started moving my business forward. The empowering thoughts must be believable to you. This is very important since it will not work to go the complete opposite way immediately. For example, to go from feeling sad to feeling happy is too big of a jump for your brain to believe, and it will fight it since it doesn’t yet have enough evidence to believe this almost opposite new thought. You want to progressively move towards the positive or empowering thoughts one step at a time as you also create the results in order to show your brain the facts so it can slowly start stamping these thoughts into new empowering beliefs.
In order to get the results you are looking for, you can flip this model backwards and start with the result you are after, what feelings you must overcome, and which thought you must focus on to get that result. A simple exercise to practice all of this is to journal all of your thoughts on paper daily. This will help you clearly see which of your thoughts are negative or positive and how each of those are making you feel. Then, you can take the one thought that’s the most important to you at the time or is disempowering you and run the model on it. This practice will help you become aware of what’s going on in your brain and what you can do to clean it up.